The lovely truth.

Has it just recently become a pattern for individuals to use dishonesty as a means to gain the respect & acceptance of others, or is this trend as old as time itself?
Did the families sailing on the Mayflower communicate with each other through deception in order to “fit in” amongst a crowd?
What about during the Civil War?
During the Roaring Twenties or the Great Depression?
Has “fitting in” been a constant struggle between humans forever?

The concept of “fitting in” & being “accepted” among groups and/or between individuals seems to be progressively becoming more of a challenge, while also simultaneously causing the undeniable detachment between the soul, the body, & the mind.
But why?
Why do people, made so unquestionably unique from one another, believe it to be a necessity to distort the reality of their personality enclosed within their mind & their soul to influence the opinion of those surrounding them?

The lovely truth? They don’t~plain & simple.

The truth is that throughout the years as trends have become “popular”, they have also simultaneously expired.
The truth is that your outfit probably won’t be considered “cute” in about a year.
The truth is that no one will exclude you for your taste in music.
The truth is that your tattoos don’t change the type of person you are.
The truth is that your unpopular opinion can be expressed.
The truth is that the clothes you wear don’t define who you are.
The truth is that where you live doesn’t define you.
The truth is that your past doesn’t define you.
The truth is lovely.

The truth is that recently it has become a struggle among communities to “fit in”, but humans were not made to fit in perfectly with one another.
People are becoming less & less prone to express themselves & their beliefs because of the fear of rejection.

This fear? It should not exist.

The fear of those closest to you rejecting you because of something so minuscule should not exist.
It has become so increasingly problematic to act, look, or dress slightly different from those surrounding us.
But why?
Why is this fear such an obstacle?

I entitled this post “the lovely truth”.
I did not entitle this post “the ugly truth”.
Because this truth is lovely.
This truth shows that the judgement you feel among others doesn’t matter.
This truth shows that you can feel free to express your opinions, dress how you want, have a crazy haircut.
This truth shows that as Christians, we should be building one another up, not taking away from someone who may seem different.

Do you want to know why they seem different? Because they are. No one is the same. God made everyone so uniquely intriguing & different no matter how hard you may look, you are never going to find someone who seems to “fit in”.

The lovely truth is that no one actually “fits in”.
The lovely truth is also that because no one “fits in”, everyone is in the same boat, on the same page, experiencing the same thing as you.


To the chameleon.


Why does everyone seem exceptionally more extraordinary than me?

The question seemingly every young adult asks themselves if they don’t feel the sense of acceptance among peers.

Ideals, as well as social “norms” and trends, tend to differ between the different communities around the globe, but the concept of “fitting in” is never changing.    

Beginning in youth, children establish the awareness of forming bonds and friendships with communities of people they thrive in, but do these communities share the same ambitions? Are these friendships merely manufactured by those of us who believe the unmasking of our genuine dreams and aspirations will lead to ridicule and laughter?

A chameleon is considered a master of disguise within the animal kingdom, changing his color to duplicate his surroundings; he can become whoever is demanded within the urgency of the occasion.

We are chameleons.

We modify what we are revolving around the company in which we associate to avoid mockery, eventually resulting in the quiet disappearance of who we actually desire to be.

Never be ashamed of your ambition.

To the chameleon:

Never be ashamed of your ambition. Never fear the ridicule. Never fear the mockery. Never be apologetic of your true identity.

Dream big. Follow your ambition. Be you.

We are all chameleons in one-way or another, but why? Why do we feel it crucial to harmonize our ideals with the ideals of one another?

The idea of conforming to fit into a certain social situation to avoid disdain is a misfortune most, if not all, of us fall victim to.

Please, join me in the journey of self-acceptance, deferring from the judgment.

From one chameleon to another.


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