Your soul.

What essence within yourself correctly determines & expresses your thoughts, your emotions, your ambitions, & your morals?
What determines what makes you smile, laugh, cry, yawn, smirk, & frown?

These are all questions I have asked myself though the years whilst seeing the different personalities articulated within various human beings I have encountered.
Why are we who we are & what brought us to the point in which we are at now?
In this moment you are the oldest you have ever been, yet also the youngest you will ever be again with everything behind you, while also a whole world of experiences on the road ahead.
But why am I the way I am?
Why do certain things make me cheerful & delighted as opposed to other things that make me bitter or sorrowful, while these same things could have an opposite affect on another individual?

The simple answer—experiences.
The complex answer—your soul.

Experiences
The simple answer to the question of who you are & who you may become focuses directly on the experiences you have encountered throughout your past & the future experiences bound to occur.
The experiences you underwent as a child, no matter how minuscule, sculpt you into adulthood.
The experiences to come could possibly transform the person you are in the present.
The experiences we face within our lives shape us.
They shape our likes.
They shape our dislikes.
They shape our beliefs.
They shape our sense of humor.
They shape our sense of sadness.
They shape who we were, who we are, & who we are bound to become.

Your soul
The soul is defined as the spiritual, immaterial, & immortal part of a human being.
Your soul is the embodiment of your personality, the component making up the deepest parts of your identity. The element making you yourself.
Your soul was given to you by God, breathed into your body at the moment of your creation. According to Genesis 2:7, “then the Lord God formed the man of dust from the ground & breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, & the man became a living creature”.
God formed man from the dust & the dirt present on the ground below our feet.
The man did not become himself until the breath of life, provided by God, was breathed into his body.
Your soul was given to you by God. Your soul was created & breathed into you by God, creating your own uniqueness, your own qualities, your own traits & personality.

The experiences, trials, & tribulations faced within one’s life do, in fact, shape our beliefs, feelings, & opinions, BUT God shaped your soul. God breathed life into you, creating the individual you are. God created your soul.
Your soul is what forms the opinions created throughout the experiences life throws at you.
Your soul is your personality.
Your soul is you.

Never forget that the traits that make you yourself were given to you by God, breathed into you by the Creator, to form your personality, your beliefs, & your dreams.
Never forget God made you unique.

Never forget God turned you into you.

xoxo

The lovely truth.

Has it just recently become a pattern for individuals to use dishonesty as a means to gain the respect & acceptance of others, or is this trend as old as time itself?
Did the families sailing on the Mayflower communicate with each other through deception in order to “fit in” amongst a crowd?
What about during the Civil War?
During the Roaring Twenties or the Great Depression?
Has “fitting in” been a constant struggle between humans forever?

The concept of “fitting in” & being “accepted” among groups and/or between individuals seems to be progressively becoming more of a challenge, while also simultaneously causing the undeniable detachment between the soul, the body, & the mind.
But why?
Why do people, made so unquestionably unique from one another, believe it to be a necessity to distort the reality of their personality enclosed within their mind & their soul to influence the opinion of those surrounding them?

The lovely truth? They don’t~plain & simple.

The truth is that throughout the years as trends have become “popular”, they have also simultaneously expired.
The truth is that your outfit probably won’t be considered “cute” in about a year.
The truth is that no one will exclude you for your taste in music.
The truth is that your tattoos don’t change the type of person you are.
The truth is that your unpopular opinion can be expressed.
The truth is that the clothes you wear don’t define who you are.
The truth is that where you live doesn’t define you.
The truth is that your past doesn’t define you.
The truth is lovely.

The truth is that recently it has become a struggle among communities to “fit in”, but humans were not made to fit in perfectly with one another.
People are becoming less & less prone to express themselves & their beliefs because of the fear of rejection.

This fear? It should not exist.

The fear of those closest to you rejecting you because of something so minuscule should not exist.
It has become so increasingly problematic to act, look, or dress slightly different from those surrounding us.
But why?
Why is this fear such an obstacle?

I entitled this post “the lovely truth”.
I did not entitle this post “the ugly truth”.
Why?
Because this truth is lovely.
This truth shows that the judgement you feel among others doesn’t matter.
This truth shows that you can feel free to express your opinions, dress how you want, have a crazy haircut.
This truth shows that as Christians, we should be building one another up, not taking away from someone who may seem different.

Do you want to know why they seem different? Because they are. No one is the same. God made everyone so uniquely intriguing & different no matter how hard you may look, you are never going to find someone who seems to “fit in”.

The lovely truth is that no one actually “fits in”.
The lovely truth is also that because no one “fits in”, everyone is in the same boat, on the same page, experiencing the same thing as you.

xoxo

From the daughter.

No matter the profession, no matter the wealth (or lack there of), no matter the social status, no matter the age, no matter the conditions, individuals struggle with psychological disorders each and every day.

Depression, anxiety, substance abuse, addiction, eating disorders, and countless other dangerous disorders prey on a community of individuals which have fallen victim to traumatic experiences, or simply have been diagnosed from adolescence.

Immeasurable numbers of these victims come forward to try to make a difference within society and while coming forward takes a strong act of courage, there are many unsung heroes related to the matter.

Who are these unnamed heroes?

The children.

The children raised by parents with psychological disorders.The children forced to experience their parent’s highs and lows, resulting in the seclusion from societal norms and companions.The children, not having an alternative, becoming independent and mature much younger than expected.

How do I know this?

I know this because I am that child. I was the child experiencing the highs and lows. I was the child being forced into seclusion. I was the child with independence and maturity. It was me. It IS me.

To the other children:

You are not alone. You do not have to seclude yourself from others, afraid that they may discover the secret hiding in your home. You are strong and you are independent. You are not at fault, this is a disease of the mind caused by nothing you could have prevented nor done. Do not be ashamed of your parent. Do not treat them differently. Love and cherish them unconditionally, because one day they may not be there to love you unconditionally in return.

To mom:

Thank you. Thank you for raising me to be the strong, independent, mature woman I have become. Thank you for supporting me, encouraging me, and loving me completely. I know now that I was not at fault and neither were you.

I miss you.

I will see you later.

From the daughter.

xoxo

To the chameleon.

 

Why does everyone seem exceptionally more extraordinary than me?

The question seemingly every young adult asks themselves if they don’t feel the sense of acceptance among peers.

Ideals, as well as social “norms” and trends, tend to differ between the different communities around the globe, but the concept of “fitting in” is never changing.    

Beginning in youth, children establish the awareness of forming bonds and friendships with communities of people they thrive in, but do these communities share the same ambitions? Are these friendships merely manufactured by those of us who believe the unmasking of our genuine dreams and aspirations will lead to ridicule and laughter?

A chameleon is considered a master of disguise within the animal kingdom, changing his color to duplicate his surroundings; he can become whoever is demanded within the urgency of the occasion.

We are chameleons.

We modify what we are revolving around the company in which we associate to avoid mockery, eventually resulting in the quiet disappearance of who we actually desire to be.

Never be ashamed of your ambition.

To the chameleon:

Never be ashamed of your ambition. Never fear the ridicule. Never fear the mockery. Never be apologetic of your true identity.

Dream big. Follow your ambition. Be you.

We are all chameleons in one-way or another, but why? Why do we feel it crucial to harmonize our ideals with the ideals of one another?

The idea of conforming to fit into a certain social situation to avoid disdain is a misfortune most, if not all, of us fall victim to.

Please, join me in the journey of self-acceptance, deferring from the judgment.

From one chameleon to another.

xoxo

Self discovery.

Does one truly ever know the entirety of their own thoughts, passions, & dreams, or do we all live in a state of uncertainty?

“The art of writing is the art of discovering what you believe.” Gustave Flaubert

Come with me as I discover my own passions & ambitions, while also helping you discover yours.

xoxo

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